When Someone Stumbles, Help Them (2)
What is the ‘spirit’ in which we are to restore someone? The spirit of gentleness. ‘If anyone is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual, restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness.’ More than likely, the person is already hurting and as fragile as glass; condemnation will only worsen their situation. Understanding and acceptance—not agreement—are what’s needed here. The spirit of humility. ‘Each one looking to yourself, so that you too will not be tempted.’ We’re all cut from the same piece of cloth; we’re all capable of getting it wrong. Remember, Peter said to the Lord that others may deny Him but he never would. (Matthew 26:33) And he meant it; he didn’t believe it could happen to him! We must be careful about our own lives, examining ourselves, knowing that we too are vulnerable to all types of temptation and sin. Finally, the spirit of love and compassion. Paul writes, ‘Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfil the law of Christ.’ (Galatians 6:2 NAS) In this passage the word ‘burden’ means ‘a heavy load’. It means being willing to walk with them, cry with them and work with them until they’ve been restored. If the hurting cannot find grace, love and healing in the family of God, where can they go to find it? Dr Charles Stanley writes, ‘It should be clear from the Scriptures that we have a responsibility to restore a fallen brother or sister. It should also be clear that this sensitive, delicate issue must be handled with great care, lest we greatly damage our witness to an unbelieving world.’